When I say ‘head fix’ it isn’t because you’re broken. You just need your internal house refurbished and renewed. Think of a fix up rather than just repair.
I’m having my doors widened in my house this week. My new wheelchair is two inches wider and measured to fit both me and my condition. I need that because it will make me more comfortable and that is the ultimate success for me, being comfortable.
My house isn’t broken, just not suitable anymore. It isn’t broken and, it isn’t sick.
Most people suffer more from being told they are in some way sick, broken, not working right, and it’s that they suffer from more than they do from the symptoms of being a person. You are told that anger, fear, sadness and habit are bad, and that is just wrong. They are as important as joy, peace, and of course being comfortable.
You have all of these experiences because that is how we work. It’s not inappropriate to be furious now and then, or to be terrified, or frustrated or confused or so heart broken you want to just go to bed. Or all of those at once. They are perfectly natural and the way you and I and everyone else is designed to be.
Problem is the big stuff tends to make an impact and build its own rooms, good and bad, and we react to it even when we don’t need to be like that anymore. Most of what therapists call mental illness, and remember they are therapists so they have to see you as sick otherwise they can’t therapise, most of that is just the remnants of our reactions to our emotions carrying on because nothing else has actually come along to widen the door or redecorate when the big stuff happens.
I guess that is seen as being sick because the symptoms can look like being attacked by a bug. Everything from rashes to pain and even cancers and life threatening physical stuff can and are a hang over from a big emotion that’s hanging around.
So to fix that we need to get your emotional person, let’s call them your Mind for want of a better word and to distinguish it from your brain which is just an organ like your heart or liver, we need to get your Mind to understand what it’s doing, and show it how to stop it and how to widen a few doors.
We do that by approaching it as a part of you that is working properly just with the understanding of your emotions, not your intelligence. And then we show it how it can do the stuff it’s doing, but to do that more comfortably.
Go along to the Mind STYLE app and discover what Your Way to do stuff most comfortably should be.
Then come back here and tell us how you think you become a fixer upper.